Our world is constantly changing, and so is our society. Social practices are changing all the time. What men wouldn’t dream of doing 10 years ago is slowly becoming commonplace. The 21st century man is able to express his feelings and emotions, cook, decorate, and dress stylishly, all while maintaining his masculinity. So where does that leave you? If you are visiting this blog, you're probably looking for some tips on how to improve your lifestyle. This is your chance to get started.

Wednesday, June 15, 2005

Go to Bed with Two Women!

In a recent Men's Health issue I read an article entitled, "Oh So Tempting." Well, with a title like that you just know its going to be good. But it gets better the author; Kate Daily has broken theses articles up into vignettes or mini-articles; each begining with whether you should indulge or resist in doing something rather tempting in your workplace or in your personal life.

One I found particularly naughty and rather funny, was called "Go to Bed with Two Women." Daily feels you should "of course" indulge! She tells the reader that according to Lou Paget, a sex educator and author of The Great Lover Playbook, these fantasies are not what men expect them to be once carried out. Daily recommends first choosing someone who you and your partner do not know well (someone you will not run into in a social setting), but someone you feel you can trust. (I'm not sure if I get that).

This is the best part; Ms. Daily feels that you should sit down as a group and decide what and who each person is going to do, and how long the "encounter" will last! What are you supposed to do, set an alarm? She says to be prepared for your partner's reaction, anything from, "disgust to girls rule!"

From what I know about the subject, it seems that it might be a bit awkward to sit down and plan it out before the incident. I would expect that most of these encounters are not planned however, I would say that it is probably not wise to do this with someone you care deeply about, because in the end someone will most likely end up getting hurt.

Read the full article here: Oh So Tempting

66 Comments:

Blogger gusgreeper said...

do it, make it naughty !

11:26 AM

 
Blogger DeeM said...

c'mon, you know you wannna. blog dirty.

11:39 AM

 
Blogger gulnaz said...

lol
i think deem's got the right idea
naughty neel lol

11:56 AM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

you should write some hardcore stuff with plenty of money shots of juicy crevaces and pulsing members.

HA!

63 comments on the last post. fuck Neel.. you're popular.

1:08 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Spock, my idea of naughty might be different that yours.

Deem, let me know what you think.

Gulnaz, naughty is subjective term.

Ms. Laughs, oh dear, what can I say to you? I think I will leave you to the raunchy porn, you are much better at it.

1:12 PM

 
Blogger stella said...

you know what they say - the quiet ones are usually the wildest of them all. :)

s.

1:29 PM

 
Blogger DeeM said...

Decide what you can or cannot do, kind of like, hookers who won't kiss because it's too personal? Or is that a myth.
Personally, there are certain things I won't share. Food is one, a partner another.
I do think a couple should discuss it first though.

1:50 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Stella, are you refferring to me?

Deem, I agree with you, you should discuss it if you are a couple, but I dont really think couples should partake because of one becoming jealous, or hurt.

The other scenerio is 3 people end up together late at night after a few drinks, share another bottle of wine, and....

1:56 PM

 
Blogger Lorena said...

yeah, planning i would think would ruin the whole appeal of it. i agree with you, if you're in a serious relationship, it's not a good idea. i'm sure there are other ways to spice up the sex life.

2:03 PM

 
Blogger DeeM said...

Are you speaking from experience?

2:12 PM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

i'll try not to take that as an insult...

2:23 PM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

and i whole heartedly agree. i think threesomes are just an open door to hurt feelings.

i'm not just an insensitive pornographer..

*snort*

2:26 PM

 
Blogger mermaid said...

You know, I have a close friend who's ex-husband wants her back, but also wants date other women. I thought I would be all full of morality and say, "Are you kidding? Hell, no!"

But I didn't. This isn't about morality (though some may disagree). It's about preferences, emotions, and choices. I asked her to ask herself whether she could be happy with an "open relationship". She wasn't sure. This isn't exactly the same as a three-way. It's more of a two-way, with the same male.

I think it's easier when one can detach intimacy from emotions. If a person could convince me that they would not get jealous, or hurt, or try to seek revenge, I'd say, go for it. It's harder when you're driven by the definition of what is "normal".

This post also reminds me of the movie, "Chasing Amy".

3:55 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Lorena, you and I seem to be in agreement, and we don't know each other that well do we?

Deem, what do you deem experience?

Ms. Laughs, that wasn't an insult it was a complement. What I read of yours was very good. Move over Larry Flint!

Mermaid, thank you for such a thoughtful response. I have not yet seen Chasing Amy, but I might go get it tonight. As far as the rest of your comment, I dont mean to dismiss it, but it could fall into another catagory. I will be writing something about relationships soon.

5:22 PM

 
Blogger mermaid said...

Yeah, I tend to veer to the deep end sometimes. If I were you, I'd ignore what I say half the time.

Chasing Amy is good. Will wait to see what you think. Your post on relationships should be interesting. Hey, you actually have a semi Dr. Phil, Oprah thing going, but you're more light-hearted.

5:40 PM

 
Blogger cedia said...

LOL.

Okay.. Neel, you from behind me for about 15 minutes, give or take extra 10 minutes If I get close to cumming...

Then I'm next.. I'll go down on you for.. eh.. say 10 minutes (oh, and of course you'll be down on me at the same time)

Then.. huh? someone else with us? But I only wanted it to be us.... If it's another girl, she better know how to eat me.

5:49 PM

 
Blogger cedia said...

Hmm... I can already hear moaning..

Take me and my clone. 8 PM tonight, we discuss who does what then we go into action.

5:52 PM

 
Blogger gusgreeper said...

you are right about one thing as far as i am concerned they are not planned in advance.

5:56 PM

 
Blogger boabhan sith said...

LOL...what about group masterbation?

is that the same thing?

Hehehe

5:58 PM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

nah.. group masturbation is cool... you're responsible for your own cookies. and.. you're not touching anyone else.

6:08 PM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

neel... i hope you didn't honestly think that you hurt my feelings.

you're too nice of a man for that.

6:09 PM

 
Blogger Arch Storm said...

Neel..u jus made my day with this post of urs!:)

6:18 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Mermaid, I could never ignore you. As far as I'm concerned you not only have relevant things to say, you have an incredible way with words.

Never heard the Dr. Phil Oprah thing before, but I will take it as a compliment, even though I dont follow (watch, read, etc) either of them.

6:18 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Cedia, uh... umm... *fumbling for words* Sounds great! Okay 8, lets make sure we have a good long discussion about it!

Oh Cedia....

6:22 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

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6:23 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Spock, we are in agreement.

Boabhan Sith (BS), I knew this cooky guy in high school who used to talk about a circle cookie party, where a bunch of guys sit around a cookie playing with themselves and the one to "finish" last has to eat the cookie. I know gross, I think the guy was kidding.

Ms. Laughs, that should gross you out after what you wrote. Thanks for the complement, you are very sweet yourself!

Arch Storm, I'm glad for that!

6:31 PM

 
Blogger cedia said...

mmm..mmmm.. mmmmm

7:00 PM

 
Blogger Carrie said...

Cedia rocks....very cool, I say you go for it with Cedia, why the hell not? ;)

on the issue at hand. to each his own or her own. there's nothing wrong with threesomes as long as everyone is game, as it could be no more than a game..a sex game..it's not about enduring relationships, it's menage a trois afterall. Spicey...me likey...but if i were married, i doubt i'd go for it....it's more a "single" thing to do...that's my 2 cents. cheers. nice article btw.

7:25 PM

 
Blogger transience said...

i've always contemplated a ménage à trois. now i can do it armed with a wealth of information! LOL!

7:56 PM

 
Blogger cedia said...

Time: 8:00 PM
Cedia & clone meets with Neel.
They talk. They laugh. They discuss plans.

Time: 8:05 PM
mmm.. ahhh.. Cedia! oo... ohh.. Neel.. mmm.. oooo.. mmmm.. ahhahh.. Neel!.. Cedia! .. oooo.. ooo..
.....................

Time: 9:00 PM
Everyone is smoking.

9:03 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

C - ooh ahhh......

Mitzee, okay whatever you say. Thanks for your 2 cents.

Transience, it will happen if you want it to, but be careful.

Cedia, can you pass me another? Oh and are you ready to go again yet?

9:36 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Cedia, it looks like you have new fans on here!

9:43 PM

 
Blogger cedia said...

I'm ready to go again.

Anyone else want in this time?!

9:45 PM

 
Blogger Sk8RN said...

Yeah, I've had some experience in this area. There is the potential for the men to be very disappointed if the women end up having a lot of fun together and ignore them. I think the discussion beforehand would alleviate that potential mishap. But I agree, it's best when you don't know the people in the threesome that well. In fact, hmmmm... this Cedia and Neel deal might fit that description. Ummm... maybe I want in. ;-)

1:27 AM

 
Blogger cedia said...

Sk8rn, it is on!

6:52 AM

 
Blogger DeeM said...

Well, now, that's so subjective, isn't it.
I might change my opinion on the matter if it were me and two men, come to think of it.

7:10 AM

 
Blogger venus said...

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8:41 AM

 
Blogger venus said...

i saw somewhat same theme in sex and the city aired yesterday, and there also they did not show any woman agreeing willingly for 2+1.

8:44 AM

 
Blogger venus said...

yeah, I agree that telling your expectations can helps both the partners.

about finding a short time agreeable partner, I have not seen any person yet who would not get hurt coming out of a broken relationship. hence I find it hard that a person can convince that he/she would not get jealous/angry/hurt.

8:53 AM

 
Blogger gulnaz said...

one person out of the three is bound to get hurt in that scenario. is it worthwhile? i'm sure there are other things which one can do, as Lo says.

10:23 AM

 
Blogger Lorena said...

well I'm getting to no bits and parts of you. i agree with Mermaid, this reminds me of Chasing Amy, great movie!

10:43 AM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

what's supposed to gross me out?

i can tell you the few things that do.. snot.. vomit with snot.. and placenta because it's snot-like.

you'd think the lubes would gross me out, but they don't.

11:16 AM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

and i only know about placenta is snot-like because i was a farmer for a stint back in the 90's.

11:17 AM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Cedia, lets go!

Sk8r, you're in, come on baby!

Deem, forget about 2 guys, you're invited to join us!

Venus, it depends on how you go about it.

Gulnaz, it is possible for someone not to get hurt.

Lorena, I will watch it tonight.

Ms. Laughs, I thought the cookie things might gross you out.

12:18 PM

 
Blogger boabhan sith said...

Some college boys are sick...I believe it.

That is not one cookie I'd want to eat.

...Even if it was a white chocolate Macadamia nut cookie!

12:49 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Boabhan Sith, you're funny!

2:17 PM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

cookies? cookies are good. =)

3:05 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

mmmm... cookies.

4:25 PM

 
Blogger mermaid said...

Hey, a close up snap. Personally, I like the smile over the serious face. I know, I know. This coming from Ms. Serious. I do like to laugh.

4:50 PM

 
Blogger Barbara said...

The whole concept makes me very angry. What the hell has the world come to where we tell the person we love that we need "more" and want a third person in the bedroom. I have had a partner ask this of me and in essence he was telling me I was not (good) enough for him.
I would never allow another man or woman in the bedroom and any man that asked that of me again would be history. I am worth more than that and deserve better.
(And if you are wondering the first time I was asked I told him no. He broke up with me and ended up being with a woman that was into the whole concept. She got the man. I left with my pride.

7:03 PM

 
Blogger Lorena said...

lovely smile :)

7:15 PM

 
Blogger Carrie said...

hey nice new pic! very cute! and I like Sk8trn's comment that there is potential for the men to be very disappointed if the women have more fun....

cheers, have a great weekend...

8:04 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Mermaid, thanks I'm glad you like it.

Barbara, you have every right and reason to be mad, you had a personal experience that would make most people mad. The important thing is that you stuck to your guns and left the relationship with your pride.

Lorena, thank you. *blushing*

Mitzzee, ditto! Wow, I love yours! Yes, I am sure Sk8r is right, and that's why a lot of guys get disappointed, I mentioned that in the post.

8:44 PM

 
Blogger cedia said...

Google image this name: Angus MacFadyen.

This is the guy I said you looked like.

10:22 PM

 
Blogger eden said...

interesting! mmm

9:34 AM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

neel.. you little tart you..

i must confess.. i prefer the other..

12:14 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Cedia, I still dont see it, but he is a good looking guy so I will take it as a compliment.

Eden, mmm to you too!

Sarah,

In the garden I was playing the tart
I kissed your lips and broke your heart
And you, you were talking about the end of the world...

1:23 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

i will post the other pic somewhere else.

1:25 PM

 
Blogger Sarah said...

"In the garden I was playing the tart
I kissed your lips and broke your heart
And you, you were talking about the end of the world..."

that sounds about right. ;) i like it.. a lot.

5:46 PM

 
Blogger cedia said...

Okay, I'll give it a rest. :)

7:43 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

Ms. Laughs, I need to give Bono credit for those lyrics.

Cedia, it's okay.... I'm flattered.

8:03 PM

 
Blogger gusgreeper said...

i want a new post. give me one. NOW. heheee. is the new pic of YOU or your alter ego???

11:16 AM

 
Blogger Neel said...

I'm sorry, I have been very busy. I will try to get something posted as soon as possible.

12:25 PM

 
Blogger Neel said...

whoops I forgot to answer your other question. yes, that is me.

11:00 AM

 
Blogger Natasha said...

um... wait a sec! can i get in on this Cedia?

9:40 PM

 
Blogger Natasha said...

i think we could get a few from here, i know im ready!

10:48 PM

 

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