Our world is constantly changing, and so is our society. Social practices are changing all the time. What men wouldn’t dream of doing 10 years ago is slowly becoming commonplace. The 21st century man is able to express his feelings and emotions, cook, decorate, and dress stylishly, all while maintaining his masculinity. So where does that leave you? If you are visiting this blog, you're probably looking for some tips on how to improve your lifestyle. This is your chance to get started.

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

The Perfect Kiss

"It's just a kiss" he might say, as he tries to convince you for that elusive kiss goodnight. As you contemplate whether or not to allow him that very personal contact with what you consider a very intimate touch and part of your body, your head spins with thoughts that this could be it, but alas he moves in for the kiss and blows it within the first second.

My friend told me that she had a first date over the weekend and that it turned out to be a fiasco, with a bad kiss being the icing on the cake of a terrible evening. The week following the date (the kiss) she has been avioding calls from who she reffers to as, "Bad Kisser."

Some say that a woman decides within the first 5 minutes of meeting a man whether or not she would be willing to have sex with him. I have talked to enough women to know that they may initially decide to have sex with him, but something he does later in the evening can blow it, not just for that evening but forever! One of the worst things a man can do to ruin his chances is not know how to kiss her. Not only that, it seems a bad kiss amongst single women can be a reoccurring topic of discussion.

I don’t know if it's because most guys think it's not masculine to kiss, or if it's because most of their pleasure comes from lower down, but I know from my male friends that they just don’t care much about kissing. I don’t get it, I love kissing, if it's done properly its wonderful, and it’s the perfect foreplay increasing blood flow to the entire body and heightening arousal for both parties. However, it takes two to tango. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have started to kiss someone for the first time and found out she can't kiss! At times I try to teach them by gently trying to get them to emulate my own technique, but it can be like wrestling with an alligator! At some point you just have to give up.

To be continued.


Blogger Abigurl said...

lol. you are so right, kissing is super important and it can tell you everything you need to know about whether you want to go beyond kissing or call it a night.

2:44 PM

Blogger Barbara said...

I need help with my technique. Wanna come to the Island and teach me? :P

5:52 PM

Blogger Natasha said...

omg! u R super right! can i get in line behind barbara?

7:06 PM

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8:01 PM

Blogger Yogesh Jangam said...

Nice post...but these spam posts (smosts??) are irritating

9:13 PM

Blogger Carrie said...

I love this post. Mainly because I agree with you entirely. I have had such bad experiences with kissing...ugh. I am pretty darn sure that I personally am a good kisser...it's all in the feeling, the movement, the soft gliding of the tongue, the exploration of your partners mouth, tongues....and the euphoria that follow a GREAT kiss...mmmmmm...yummmm....sorry if i appear boastful...i'm not trying to be, i'm reveling in this post because it is something i feel strongly about. a kiss is a small taste of what type of sensuality a person has to offer. an abrupt, fumbling kiss is a sign of perhaps not such good sex or foreplay. that's a no no in my book. but hey i'm only 1 person out of many..so to each their own. DAMN...now I want to KISS YOu...just to you know, see how good it is ;)

Neel sorry u were out cold on morphine...next time send some to me...i'll join u....so GLAD to have you back......ciao bello.

9:16 PM

Blogger Missy The Moo said...

HAY! i commented on the other page but i will do so again! THANK YOU!!! i hope u don't mind but i'm soo gonna link u!! ur awesome! thanks again!!:):)

10:29 PM

Blogger Neel said...

Wow! I have to learn what to write about. I will respond to all of you later, I need my bed now.

2:56 AM

Blogger preetishere said...


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Blogger preetishere said...

so...how are you?...anywhere near to"feel good"..take your meds..:)..byeee

5:27 AM

Blogger DeeM said...

bad kisser, bad! and you just can't come out and say, 'you're a bad kisser'. it was more of a turn off than bad bo or breath. maybe if you throw up in their mouth that will give some indication.
i hate 'smosts' too.

6:38 AM

Blogger boabhan sith said...

I don't understand how anyone could be a bad kisser?

I've personally never had a bad kisser and I've been told that I'm an awesome kisser by every boyfriend I've had. LOL, are certain ppl born with it because it's not like I practiced or something.

Now bad lays I've had. That does take a lot of practice, hehehe.

12:10 PM

Blogger gulnaz said...

men dont like kissing???

5:08 AM

Blogger Jaxe said...

A person's kiss defines their entire style of sexuality. A very passionate kisser will resonate you in bed, a sloppy kisser will bore you in bed, a shy kisser will lie there stiff like a board (or actually be a freak, but that is an exception!). I believe that a kiss says more than any words.

I've been told I am a great kisser . . .
. . . at almost EVERY family reunion!

Hehe, Here's to a speedy recovery Neel, and I hope I made you laugh (or at least cringe!)

3:31 PM

Blogger misterniceguy1960 said...

Kissing is good.

Kissing is good for you.

Does anybody need a kiss?

4:37 PM

Blogger nomadic_waves said...

You arent supposed to kiss her,u are supposed to simply whisper into her mouth and wait for the sparks to fly.

10:02 PM

Blogger Neel said...

abigurl, I agree with you. Thanks for stopping by.

Barbara, Lost on the island? Sure, why not, but I cant guarantee that mine is any better.

Natasha, You're silly, but okay.

What's up with the ads on here?

Yogesh, thanks! I agree with you about the spam! I'm going to delete them.

8:45 PM

Blogger Neel said...

My Dear Mitzzee, Wow, what a response! I didnt set out to get that kind of reaction when I wrote the post, but I'm glad I did! I wrote it because my friend wanted me to. Okay, I give in, you can kiss me.

Moo, Hay! How are you? Thanks, my pleasure! I will link you too!

Preeti, I feel good now. Not on any meds at present. I hope you too are well.

Deem, yuck, you dont have to be that graphic, I guess you really do hate bad kissers though. *wink*

Boahban, just read some of the posts on here, there are a lot of bad kissers out there. You probably are an "awsome kisser", and have had good luck. yeah, i would think being in touch with your sensuality and sexuality would be something that you are born with or that comes naturally.

Gulnaz, Some dont, but I cant speak for everyone, nor generalize, I am just going off of what I have been told.

Jaxe, You crack me up! I think i have pretty much recovered.

In regard to your serious bit in the post, I agree.

Mr. Nice Guy, I hope someone comes forward.

Nomadic Waves, Not sure what you mean, but okay.

9:20 PM

Blogger Sue hardy-Dawson said...

I believe that kissing like sex is neither good or bad it is just what an individual likes, when I was in my teens I worrid about being bad at things so much I was so nervous, I'd end up looking like a twit. Longevity has taught me that it is not how you do it but with whom that matters. After all you'll forgive someone you're crazy about a lot, and practice and listening to one another is what makes it perfect

5:31 AM

Blogger eden said...

superb post! kissing yeah its really important....

7:35 AM

Blogger Jen said...

Stumbled across your blog. What an interesting post on kissing. Kissing is important. I happen to love kissing. I love the way it makes me feel and I love the closeness it creates betwen two people.

11:08 AM

Blogger Neel said...

Sue, it would seem there are some differing opinions on this subject. i will have to do some more research.

Eden, thanks, I think so too!

Jen, thanks for stopping by. I agree with you, totally!

6:13 PM

Blogger boabhan sith said...


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Blogger allison said...

hmmmmmmm I'm not a big kisser. Don't get me wrong I like kissing but there is NOTHING worse than a bad kisser!

4:27 AM

Blogger preetishere said...

waiting for your next post...:)

4:32 AM

Blogger stella said...

wait, where do we sign up for your kissing lessons? (kidding, my mind is still in the gutter...! ;)

9:01 AM

Blogger Carrie said...

Neel - you're ON! can't wait to pucker up! ;P

9:56 AM

Blogger barbieluvsu8181 said...

I wondered where you went to?? Hahaha! thanks for the comments....I'll be back tomorrow. I gots some stuff I gots to do!! l8r!

1:56 PM

Blogger Neel said...

Boabhan, I'll check it out.

Allison, maybe you havent had a really good kisser yet. In fact maybe that is the problem with a lot of people. A really good kiss can be nearly THE GREATEST part of a sexual experience.

Preeti, I have posted some new articles on the other sites, still working on something for this one.

Stella, thats the best place for your mind and mine. Maybe I will go on tour. :)

Mitzzee, sounds like a lot of fun to me!

Barbie, how are you (besides being busy)? The new info is up on the other site.

4:06 PM

Blogger Natasha said...

when does the tour start and are you coming to cali?

7:34 PM

Blogger Vidhi said...

hi neel...here thru nomadic waves. hope u've recovered fully from that surgery of urs...

i admire ur style of writing...and wud be back for sure...one thing i notice, u love cooking! ne spl reasons for it? and how did u develop a liking for it?

11:54 PM

Blogger Jenn said...

I LOVE LOVE LOVE to kiss. I'm a kissing whore. =(

4:52 AM

Blogger Carrie said...

oh it will be! so when and where? ;)

7:43 AM

Blogger Neel said...

Natasha, of course, the tour makes several stops there.

Vihdi, thanks for the kind words. I started cooking at a young age, and it always came easy for me.

jenn, the guy the GETS GETS GETS to kiss you is a lucky man.

Mitzzee, you will be notified by telegram, then you will be picked up in a private car, blindfolded, and driven to a secret location.

2:19 PM

Blogger gusgreeper said...

great post neel and being as you read my blog you know full well i'd rather wrestle a gator than be with a shitty kisser what with my gator/croc fascination.

3:35 PM

Blogger Natasha said...

waiting for the next post...

7:43 PM

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7:43 PM

Blogger Jenn said...

*blushin* Awww, thank you!

I was actually coming back to tell you, STORIES, gimmie stories! You lucky bastard! =D

11:04 PM

Blogger Maja said...

I agree that kissing is super-important! My boyfriend isn't the best kisser in the world, but he's not bad either. The first real kiss with him was the best kiss ever, and I remember thinking it as it happened.
Bad kissers are just plain awful!

11:25 PM

Blogger Neel said...

Corrina, funny! Yeah, and I compared bad kissers to gators.

Natasha, its coming soon, i promise.

Jenn, I dont want to post my secrets on here. You know how can contact me, or we can meet on hallowed ground. :)

11:49 PM

Blogger Neel said...

Maja, how did you sneak in there? That's a great story. Dont tell your boyfriend that he's not the best kisser, he will want to know who he is being compared to!

Just saw Hitch, it ws great. There is one line where Will Smith says, "8 out of 10 women believe they can tell how things will be in the future from the first kiss."

11:53 PM

Blogger venus said...

Thank you neel for stopping by!
hope you are doing better now.
I quite agree with will smith's statement, you can make out from a person's kiss if it's a fling or going somewhere.

12:11 PM

Blogger Lorena said...

a kiss is important yet you can't make a quick decision afterwards if things will workout or not. i guess it depends on how well you know the person.

soft lips, a gentle kiss really is wonderful for a first. as for perfection, it only helps if you have real feelings for the person.

all this talk of kissing, now i want one, a good one that is!!

1:19 PM

Blogger Carrie said...

OMG! I JUST READ THAT reply monsieur Neel Sen...and let me tell you....I am packing my bag, just in case I need it...although....if I'm being picked up in a car and blindfolded, why bother with baggage! :P

so excited for this special, secret, masked rendevous....and all for a kiss....that's gonna be one MARVELOUS kiss!

3:37 PM

Blogger Sarah said...

my first boyfriend.. was a rubbish kisser. i was still with him for 2 years. he got better. but never made my heart race.

now kissing joshua for the first time. i creamed myself.

so i don't know how much importance i tag on to kissing.

i bet you're a good kisser though.


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1:51 AM

Blogger iamnasra said...

Wow you are back writing again..So glad to see you holding your key board...

Glad you are back

8:42 AM

Blogger Neel said...

Venus, I agree with you. Its always my pleasure to drop by.

Lorena, excellent points however, you may have feelings for the person, and the kiss is just so bad you cant get beyond that.

You want one, I'm sure there are guys lining up!

Mitz, I dont think you need the bag. Yes, a marvelous kiss. Do you need to be bound as well?

Sarah, i'm glad that Joshua can make you feel that way, its important. Dont know, I havent kissd myself.

Exile, hmm looks like Morse code for "S".

Nasra, thanks very much, you are to kind.

6:29 PM

Blogger exile said...

neel- yes, the _ _ _ and the other ... were left off.

8:15 PM

Blogger Neel said...

ah ha save our souls! you are a bright man sir exile.

8:53 PM

Blogger mermaid said...

I don't know if there is a technique to kissing. When I'm attracted to someone, physically, emotionally (and spiritually, though that came later), I want to touch their lips, and begin to enter their being.

My husband first kissed me on the chin, and missed my lips completely. I thought it was adorable, because he was so nervous. When he attempted again, I just knew I would open up, more and more, just like Neel said.

12:36 PM

Blogger exile said...

you can't save what's already lost hehehe

2:02 PM

Blogger Pallavi said...

yeah it does help if the man is not all over your face.. and I am totally NOT into beards... /:) ;)

6:18 AM

Blogger Neel said...

Mermaid, I love that story its very sweet.

Exile, no you can't.

Pallavi, beards huh? Good to know.

8:44 PM

Blogger Natasha said...

make it 60!

2:51 AM


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